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So, I don't think of myself as the type of person who went to strip clubs a lot, maybe 15 times total between ages 21 and 28? But I remember almost all of them. Windsor, Memphis, Charlotte, Raleigh, Costa Rica, and Montreal, I think. I never thought one of the girls liked me (just my money), but I like naked women + drinking, so it was fun.

Last time I went was my bachelor party. OK, not entirely true. About 15 years ago I went with a friend who had just flown in from England, and a friend of his. It was Saturday, we'd been drinking with a bigger group of people, and were in DC to watch the Redskins (my + friends' team) play the Jets (his and his friend's team). Friend + his friend REALLY wanted to go a strip club, and I hadn't seen this friend in a while, so I went with them while the rest of the group went to a different bar. It was a multi-level strip club, and I honestly can't even recall if I saw a naked woman. What I DID remember was my friend sitting down and passing out before we could order drinks. It was about 11pm (so 4am London time), and dude could not function. Bouncer said we had to wake him up or get kicked out. Woke him up. He made it about 1 minute, passed out and we got kicked out. Fortunately, my friend paid the cover.

At any rate... my wife and I try to be very honest about anything + everything we want from each other, the world, etc. I mentioned a year or so ago I really wanted to try going to a strip club with her. Finally, this past weekend, we had a Saturday night with no dogs, and both kids out of town, and we decided that would be the night. I haven't been to one forever, and googled what you're supposed to do/tip/etc. Last time I went, floor dance was $10, private dance was $20, and you tipped single bills for the dancers on the stage. Well, fuck Biden, because boy have prices gone up. Consensus seemed to be $40(!) for a single song dance, and you were supposed to tip EVERY dancer on stage (really?). At any rate, I got a bunch of bills of all sizes to get ready.

My wife and I discussed what was OK, and what was not. Basically, we decided we'd try to get a dance or two, if anyone seemed good enough. Also agreed that we could leave if it was too skeevy, etc. We chose the club closest to our house, and got there at 8:30pm. It is the newest club in the area, having opened about 3 months ago. So, fortunately, everything was nice and clean. Turns out, though, that floor dances are not a thing at this club (more on this later). The club was pretty empty due to the early hour, so we got a table not too close to the stage, and ordered drinks.

Fortunately, my wife and I tend to see things pretty similarly. We commented on the women, the fake boobs, the style of dancing, etc. It took about 45 minutes for someone to approach us. Which was nice since we had time to get a few drinks and get acquainted with the setup. This woman seemed to be about 25, had fake boobs and was "studying to be a civil engineer." She struck me as ditzy at first, but as we talked, realized that was basically her front as she sussed people out. She said most of her job was just trying to figure out what the person wanted (Are they happy, are they said, do they just want to talk, etc), and had been doing it about 7 years. She was up next for dancing, so we moved closer to the stage to watch.

She came back, and we talked more. Eventually, wife + I decided to see what the options were, and they made my old experiences seem like nickel candy. The options STARTED at $100 for a private 15 minute dance in a closet-sized room that had chain curtains. The next option was a $200 slightly larger room, but with a door. "This is where touching starts" said our guide. There was then a larger room, and then an even larger room with a hot tub (30-minute/$600 minimum, drained between every use - Which made me wonder what people were doing in there). There was even an "Executive" room that was larger and had "putt putt" but I assume was just a small putting green off Amazon or something.

We chose the $200 option. Our dancer was attractive, fake boobs (about a D-cup), wearing a g-string. For touching, everything was fair game except her face + the g-string area. My wife + I are not poly, and we've never done a 3some. But the dancer started with my wife, and wow that was fucking hot. Tits in her face, my wife grabbing and playing with them, their eye contact with each other, dancer gyrating on my wife. Good Lord, words cannot describe how hot that was to me. She then danced on me, the first boobs I've touched that weren't my wife's in 22 years. They were decently nice for being fake. I then asked her to dance for my wife for the rest of the time.

The club itself was a bit slow since we were there so early. The performers at the time were good, but the 1 that danced for us was about the only one I would have wanted. There was a second possibility, but she never went on stage, and I only ever saw her walking through the club, never stopped on the floor. Some of the dancers just looked sad, like the one with "Est 1987" tattooed on her legs. Oh yeah, I think they all had tattoos.

We finished the night by tipping a dancer on the stage who had GIANT fake boobs, melons just smaller than my head. and she thanked us by grabbing each of us and smashing each of our faces into a boob of hers.

It was fun. 10/10, would do again. Wife agrees.

Great write up.

TheCatt wrote: ↑Thu Jun 27, 2024 2:29 pm Oh yeah, I think they all had tattoos.

TheCatt wrote: ↑Thu Jun 27, 2024 2:29 pm We finished the night by tipping a dancer on the stage who had GIANT fake boobs, melons just smaller than my head. and she thanked us by grabbing each of us and smashing each of our faces into a boob of hers.

I believe this is very much a standard thing.

TheCatt wrote: ↑Thu Jun 27, 2024 2:29 pm For touching, everything was fair game except her face + the g-string area.

WHAT? Up here you aren't allowed to touch at all. Although, to be fair, I haven't been to a strip club in...at least 20 years, and even when I had gone, it was less than 10 times total.

TheCatt wrote: ↑Thu Jun 27, 2024 2:29 pm their eye contact with each other

THIS. The physical stuff can all be done unconsciously and as part of a routine. (Honestly, the same can be said of sex.) Eye contact is everything and where the actual passion lies. Looking into a stripper's eyes while she's giving you a dance worked out pretty well for me.

TheCatt wrote: ↑Thu Jun 27, 2024 2:29 pm It took about 45 minutes for someone to approach us. Which was nice since we had time to get a few drinks and get acquainted with the setup. This woman seemed to be about 25, had fake boobs and was "studying to be a civil engineer." She struck me as ditzy at first, but as we talked, realized that was basically her front as she sussed people out.....

At that point in the story, I started to wonder if it was going to end, "SHe's moving in next week, and we're all so in love."

Leisher wrote: ↑Thu Jun 27, 2024 2:43 pm WHAT? Up here you aren't allowed to touch at all.

yeah, when my wife and I were talking beforehand I said "we cannot touch, but the dancer is allowed to touch," because that's how I understood it as well. And they we got there and they were like "as long as you have a room with a door, it's whatever the dancer is ok with. Touching was nice.

GORDON wrote: ↑Thu Jun 27, 2024 4:55 pm that point in the story, I started to wonder if it was going to end, "SHe's moving in next week, and we're all so in love."

lol. My wife has to have some level of connection with people, so we talked a while. She still talks about the stripper. Who knows.

Leisher wrote: ↑Thu Jun 27, 2024 2:43 pmtattoos

Yeah. Our dancer had 4 that I recall. One said "tits and ass," and another was an angle with a halo. Her 'guardian angle' if you will. I don't think strippers necessarily make the best life decisions, but those 2 tats at least showed a sense of humor.

We had an extended weekend with no kids and no dogs, and decided to go back last night. We had a hotel room for 3 nights, and this was our final night. Unfortunately, that means we'd been pretty much celebrating all weekend, and I had been day-drinking Sunday before we went. Yeah, foreshadowing.

We decided to go to the same club, since it's the newest/cleanest/nicest, etc. We got to the club a little before 8, and it was dead. The guy at the door said "We've got a great set of ladies coming in tonight." In my brain "Yeah, sure," but my wife believed him. There were about 7 guys in the club, and 5 girls, each talking to a guy to try and sell a dance. C was entertained, as we recognized a couple of them, and she was cheering for them in her head. We each started with a gin + tonic and a bottle of water. Last visit, the drinks were super weak, and they felt that way this time, too. Last time I think I had 7? during our 2 hours, and was just lightly buzzed.

So club was pretty dead, no one was even on stage, but then the stage show started about 10 minutes later, and a few more people trickled in. The first girl to dance was the girl we got a dance from last time. C went up and tipped her, then she came by, we talked, we tipped her some more, but indicated we weren't doing a dance that night with her, and she moved her hustle on to other people. The first group of ladies were decent, but aside from the dancer we had last time, unimpressive. That being said, my wife can see the beauty in anyone, and was very kind to the women, talking to them, tipping, etc. I continued to drink, and the club got more lively.

C + I were debating who we might want a dance from, when a cute shorty walked by with a hand bra. I was like "Who was that?" As she hadn't been on stage at all, or anywhere. An hour later she walked by again, wearing a towel. Clearly she had had a hot tub "dance," but she again disappeared. Lina? Nina? Who knows. I got another couple of drinks, and had been drinking most of C's drinks, as she was taking it slowly due to all the weekend drinking we'd been doing. I saw the bartender make the drinks, and she was putting in a full shot. Made a note to myself to slow down. Forgot said note.

The club did indeed get quite busy. Around 10pm, most tables had people, and 1 VIP booth had a dude (with 4 of the strippers at his booth). We talked to a few ladies, but most of the dancers avoided the couples who were there. I'm not sure why, but I eventually decided 3 of the ladies were cute enough for a dance. Mystery lady from earlier finally showed up, and took the stage. We both tipped her, and she asked if we wanted a dance later, and I said "Yes." Her dances ended, and she went to the bar to sit with some loser looking dude.

At this point, I was apparently getting a little grumpy about it. I don't know what I said, but C was like "Damn, we've been married 22 years, and I've never seen you be anything when drunk except a happy drunk." I wasn't completely mad/upset, but I was annoyed. Eventually, the woman walked by, and I asked about a dance, and she said "Sure, right after this 45 minute VIP dance I'm about to do." I went to the bathroom, and there's this video game I play where you can play 1-2 minutes at a time, etc. I pulled up the app, and was like "Oh, I'll do the 10pm tasks since it's 10:30 now." I start clicking, and something's off. Ohhhhhh.... I already did the 10pm tasks at my previous bathroom break, and had completely forgotten. Realized I was a little too drunk, and needed to stop drinking.

Of the 3 ladies I had picked, #1 was dancing VIP. #2, C decided was too grumpy looking. (She was like a tall eastern European, tight build, real breasts, black hair, etc). So that left #3, cute mid-height pale redhead (might even have been her real hair color). But #3 was STILL in the booth with VIP booth guy. So we gave up and went home around 11.

It was fun, and was fun to see the club active with lots of women, and people tipping, having fun, etc. C had a fun time as well, so not quite what we expected. Bit hungover today. Surgery tomorrow on my hip (yay!).

I'm not sure how I wanted that story to end, but not with that fizzle.

GORDON wrote: ↑Mon Oct 14, 2024 2:22 pm I'm not sure how I wanted that story to end, but not with that fizzle.

Same

The whole, "tell myself to slow down, but didn't listen"...I felt that in my soul.

Leisher wrote: ↑Tue Oct 15, 2024 8:37 am The whole, "tell myself to slow down, but didn't listen"...I felt that in my soul.

yeah, closest I've come to puking in a while. Glad I didn't.

Wife: You're too picky, next time, I'm picking my own woman.

!!!!

"Baby I feel like we just renewed our vows."

Went to one in Japan. It was different, more details later. But if my wife were a lesbian she'd get laid all the time. These women love her.

TheCatt wrote: ↑Mon Jun 30, 2025 7:30 pm Went to one in Japan. It was different, more details later. But if my wife were a lesbian she'd get laid all the time. These women love her.

Whenever we go to a strip club, I have C give the dancers the tips, instead of me. I have 3 reasons for this: 1) It's fun to see her interacting with the women, 2) It's to send a signal that C is in this for fun, too, and won't be a problem. I've read some number of stories of wives (or girlfriends) being wet blankets to the dancers at strip clubs, and want to make clear that that is not us. 3) I want to see how the dancer reacts to Christina. Maybe they're just here to dance for men, and not someone we should request a dance from.

Story time...

Christina and I had an amazing dinner at a local steak restaurant. We had some A5 Kobe beef of 2 different BMS grades (beef marbling scale): a low-end A5, and a high-end A5, divided between filet and sirloin. The steaks were amazing, best ever, etc, etc. JFC so good (and so expensive).

After dinner, we were kinda searching for things to do, but it was hard to figure out what was what. The "girl bars" or "girl clubs" just seemed dumb. It was Monday night, so bars/clubs weren't very lively. We eventually decided to visit a American-style gentleman's club. (Japanese style strip clubs are more production-dance oriented, without private dances or touching).

We went in, paid about $35 each, and got "free drinks" for the next 45 minutes. The drinks were not very good (bad white wine, beer fine). The place seemed very small, and we could see about 4 other patrons. 3 of whom had women with them. The dancers were just OK at first (or, maybe worse), and despite the typical two dance thing and the sign outside that said "topless" there was no toplessness. No one was tipping, and I started to think I'd made a bit of a mistake having us go here.

C felt bad for the ladies and wanted to start tipping. She pulled out 1000Yen (about $7) and went up to the stage. The lady told her to sit on stage, then to lay down on the stage with the bill in her mouth. C did, and then the woman groped C's covered breasts, laid down almost in a 69-like position, grinding her pussy over C face, and ran her hands all over C. She then pulled back, and took off her top in front of C face, putting her boobs in C mouth, and took the money.

C came back and said "You should go tip, I bet you'd like that, too." I mean, I was already pretty happy with seeing what had transpired. So, I did, and it was fun, and she basically repeated what she had done to C for me, removing my glasses first.

C tipped the next lady, then we took a break. The ladies, after their dances, kinda disappeared, no one asking for a drink or dance. There was an attractive dark-haired woman in the corner with fake glasses on, who I was waiting for her to dance. She did eventually dance on stage, and C tipped her. But, the woman did very little in response.

C and I were talking afterwards, and I said something about kinda wanting a dance with that woman, but C said "No, you don't. You want the most interesting and entertaining performer, not the most attractive." "Fair enough" We watched another, and realized we were late getting back to the kids.

C told me to get busy doing something, or get busy leaving. So I walked up to the doorman, and asked for the first woman C had tipped (her preference). I only remembered her wearing red, and was the only woman in the line-up in red. 1 minute later, the doorman came back with 2 women in red. Fortunately, it was easy to pick the one.

Her name was "Sasha" and she was Romanian. She explained to us that the best deal was to buy 1/2 a bottle of champagne ($15k yen, ~$110) and that we could drink it and talk and it'd come with a dance as well. So we ordered, and promptly were moved to a better couch for the night. We started talking and learned a lot about her. She had married a Japanese man working at the same company she had been working at in Romania, and had two young kids (6 and 7). She "shook her butt" to make money, as she didn't have a ton of other choices in Japan.

We decided to go ahead and get our dance. C was wearing a white shirt that she was wearing with the shoulder parts down, leaving her shoulders exposed. She also wasn't wearing a bra. By this point, "Sasha" had told us her real name was Ramona. We ended up doing 2 dances (~$49 for the 2nd dance), and it got a little blurry, but here's what I remember. The "room" was pretty small, and was a 1.5 person seat with a curtain.

C and Ramona were talking, and Ramona asked permission for everything she did. Ramona exposed her own breasts first, and then pulled down C's top, exposing her breasts. C + I took a turn sucking on Ramons's breasts, and then Ramona and I took a turn sucking on C's breasts. C looked into Ramona's eyes, and told her how beautiful she was. They locked eyes, and I saw something change in Ramona's face. Ramona hesitated for a moment, and then leaned in to make out with C. C met her and they gave a deep kiss to each other. When Ramona pulled back, she had a small hesitation in her words, and her eyes looked different. "I… never kiss in the club, but you guys are..." she stated haltingly. She then leaned in to kiss me as well, like a transference of C's kiss to me.

Ramona pulled up C's skirt, showing just her underwear. Ramona said something that I kinda missed about kissing C's thighs. She was then touching my penis through my pants, and again, I missed her comment, but she said "I was complimenting your penis. It's big." when I didn't react (too distracted I guess?). C said "His penis sure does feel good." Then, Ramona took my hand and put it down C's underwear, and took C's hand and put it down my pants. We ended up all making out, sucking titties and having fun for a few more moments before our time ran out. It was awesome.

At this point, we really had to go, and said our farewells. Ramona gave us her WhatsApp number, and hoped we would come back and see her before we left Japan. She may have been acting a bit, but she seemed to genuinely enjoy being with us. Like C starts talking to these women, and their walls just drop and we get the real woman, not the one she's pretending to be that night. And C genuinely cares about the women, and wants to get to know them. I guess in a job where 99% of the people are men who really just want to see you naked and touch you, that's a nice change of pace.

TheCatt wrote: ↑Fri Jul 11, 2025 12:19 pm I guess in a job where 99% of the people are men who really just want to see you naked and touch you, that's a nice change of pace.

Can confirm. The times I've been to a strip club and just sat to watch the show, I'd get asked for dances/drinks, but the times when I'm clearly not paying attention they wanted to talk. Talking to them as people was my thing. I never got a dance unless I got a real name and what got them to do this as a job.

A local strip club, that has since closed, had a pool table for a brief time. DictionaryDave and I took my cousins there on their first trip to a strip club. Dave and I played pool and we had girls flocking around us hanging out. Not asking for drinks and dances, but talking to us as real people. Funny side note: One of my cousins comes up to me less than 30 minutes into the visit, out of money, and asks, "Do they take credit cards?"

Here's a mystery we're dealing with in the same vein:
One of my middle kid's friend's has an attractive mom, according to my kid and wife, and nobody knows what she does for a living. She will NOT tell her daughter. Middle class home, there's a dad, from what I hear they're...not insane partiers, but partying happens. The mom works at night, but is home a lot of weekends. My wife and I both think something sexual in nature, but why wouldn't she work weekends? I don't think this area has weekday crowds for strip clubs, but maybe it does? I haven't been to one in more than a decade.

OnlyFans wouldn't need her to work weekends. Escorting is a maybe, but would need weekends.

Leisher wrote: ↑Fri Jul 11, 2025 4:26 pm I don't think this area has weekday crowds for strip clubs, but maybe it does? I haven't been to one in more than a decade.

Feels unlikely, agreed.

How the hell did I never think of OF?

I'll run that by the investigative committee tonight.

Leisher wrote: ↑Fri Jul 11, 2025 4:44 pm How the hell did I never think of OF?

I'll run that by the investigative committee tonight.

time to do the reverse image search on a picture of her face!

I don't know her name and I'm afraid to ask. I don't want them thinking I'm SUPER interested...

Leisher wrote: ↑Fri Jul 11, 2025 8:25 pm I don't know her name and I'm afraid to ask. I don't want them thinking I'm SUPER interested...

C'mon, second career!

Culmination of our exploration last night. We had our first threesome (The good kind, MFF). I won't tell the story, but it was awesome, and the third woman was H-O-T. About 30-32 years old, 5'8", and great curves. My wife and I conceptually agreed to this a long time ago, and last night it finally happened. Early in our relationship we were both concerned about "catching feelings," but after nearly 23 years of marriage, we felt that we could do it. Still had a bit of nerves, but everything went as well as I think it could have. She and I both had a great time, and what was once considered a "bucket list" experience may become more regular. (And, it may not, who knows, either way, A+, two thumbs up)

I offered an MMF since we did my dream, but my wife is more of a demisexual than not, and she thinks she'd have to like a guy "too much" in order for it to happen, so she's fine without it. I need a spark, but my bar is lower in that regard.